trying to conceive, two week wait

For couples who are trying to conceive, the period between ovulation and the day when you’ve officially missed your period (i.e. green light to take a home pregnancy test) would seem like the longest two weeks that you’ll ever have to endure in your lifetime.

I can totally relate as this drives me nuts every month for a while now, since we have been trying for baby #2.

It’s funny how 2 short lines can make sure a great impact on our lives:

“Ok, I think I’m officially late. Can I test now?”

“Is that a faint line? Or am I imagining things?”

And then there’s the inward scream you wished you could let out when AF makes her [unwanted] appearance.

While there’s nothing much we can do to make those feelings go away, here are some coping strategies that might make the two-week wait a little more bearable:


1. Stop Obsessing

It’s hard not to think when that Big Fat Positive (BFP) line will finally appear, but try not to make the topic of conception and/or baby dancing the main topic of conversation during the whole of that 2 weeks. Not only is this not exactly healthy for your relationship, it’ll definitely make you more stressed than you already are – and this is not the ideal environment that will help you get that BFP.

Shoshana Bennett, PhD, a clinical psychologist advised, “It’s not realistic to not talk about it at all, but don’t make it the focus of all your discussions.”


2. Stop Googling

“Signs of early pregnancy symptoms”

“No symptoms – could I be pregnant?”

“Increased cervical mucus during early pregnancy”

Like me, a lot of TTC women tend to Google possible pregnancy symptoms obsessively during the 2WW. And then there are Facebook groups and pregnancy forums that we constantly stalk during our free time.

I’ve learnt over the course of time that doing any of the above only makes me more anxious, so I’ve tried to cut down time spent on Google and the TTC groups. In fact, Susan Allen, a marriage and family therapist, recommends women in her fertility support groups to limit their time on Facebook and Instagram, and to carry on interacting on the forums ONLY if it HELPS them in one way ot another.


3. Find a Source of Distraction

Take your mind off everything TTC and/or pregnancy related by giving yourself something else to work on. Although this may be easier said than done,  it is worth a try.

Good thing for me, I already have a source of distraction which comes in the form of my strong-willed toddler. With her testing our limits and insisting that she does things her way, I now find myself Googling toddler discipline techniques and behaviour traits a lot these days. And then there’s potty training to think of as well…


4. Take Care of Yourself

You are preparing yourself for pregnancy after all, so why not focus your energy on the things you can do to prepare your body for the journey ahead?

Find time to fit in some exercise in your daily routine (as challenging as it may be), and try to shift your schedules so that you get to go to bed earlier each day.

Not exactly eating healthy? Well, now’s the time to start! Make sure you start the day with breakfast (I hear overnight oats is a good choice) and choose healthier options for snacks and the rest of the day’s meals.

Take care of all these little details now, and when you finally get pregnant, you’re off to a good start.


5. Get Support from the Hubby

That whole sperm-and-egg process takes two, and the same goes for the emotional roller coaster during this period. Keep reminding yourself that you both are in this together, and he might be just as anxious as you are – although chances are, he won’t show any signs of it.

You might want to talk to him about how you feel, and share some interesting facts about pregnancy and fertility. Who knows, he might know something you don’t or offer encouraging words that are all you need to think positively during this time. On the upside, having something common to talk about with your better half during this time will definitely make things easier and more bearable.